Success or failure depends not only on the goal, my friends, but also upon one’s perspective. I know
a family of very modest means. The
father, many times feels a failure of his life.
He…
…has supported his
family and not only keeps a full time job, but also runs a small window washing
business with one employee.
…has managed to
get two children through college without student loans. They too have worked, but support and
practical assistance was always there.
…has a house with
two bathrooms, a piano, and is not located in a slum.
…has a wife that
bakes, works occasionally as a substitute teacher and a couple of days a week
when she likes as a bookkeeper.
…writes and
performs music for love and money.
…has no family in
jail or prison or rehab.
…has no family
member suffering from lack of dental or other medical care.
…has made sure his
family members always have a ride to where they need to be and usually they
have a vehicle at their disposal.
…has no debt
except his modest mortgage.
This family does not lead a charmed life without traffic
accidents or broken bones, nor does it gain from legacies from deceased family
members more than the odd bent fork or chipped plate.
Why does he feel he’s a failure? Because he doesn’t have a
degree in a profession.
Is he a failure? Not from where I sit. I see a man who is a poster child for success
and a well-lived life. He dines very
well, his clothing is snappy, his house is well kept, his children are happy
with jobs and live in their own homes. His wife is content with her activities,
using her income to buy books, craft supplies, the occasional lunch with
friends, and pretty well what her modest heart desires.
Am I a failure? Is
the fact I wrote almost a negative number on my novels last year making me a
failure as a writer? Well, I thought so, until I realized that I have actually
completed two novels and half of another. I have more story ideas to fill out
other novels. I have completed two self help books of modest size. There have been kind things said about my
work.
Recently, novel number one, “The Proving Zone: Tory’s Story”
was sent to a reviewer to be written to be included in a database for possible
movie selection. The review went
horribly wrong.
Horribly.
Review quote, “It (The
Proving Zone: Tory’s Story) is a homage to and blatant mixture of “Children of
Men,” “The Hunger Games,” and “Battle Royale.” However, even though these
comparisons were all fresh ideas and successful films, I question the
originality of this story. It is one thing to add to the teenage drama
phenomena, but it is quite another to rip off the concepts of other stories
without introducing new and exciting elements.”
Then I realized that although my work had been utterly
trashed and I had been skewered as a plagiarist of the worst kind, that I had
actually been complimented, as the films mentioned were quite popular. I have
yet to see them or read the works that spawned them and I’d like to add, I
WROTE MINE before those came out! Evidently the reviewer neglected to look at
the copyright date….
So, in the eyes of one reviewer, I’m a failure. But, in my eyes,
I have renewed confidence. Success or failure is a matter of perspective.
Whether one or the other or neither,
I am a novelist.
Nina Sipes
Who writes occasionally as Blatant Appeal, Skippy Riedel,
and a host of other alter-egos….
2 comments:
Just to be clear. I wrote this blog and set it up to post whilst I was gone on a three week drive-about with DH. I do hope other things put on automatic worked better....
I think I'd better get off and check to see how my auto bill paying went...
Failure and success are kind of like the glass half full or half empty view of life--it is totally a matter of perspective. I was thrilled when I saw I finally got a review of Debt on Amazon and them read it. The three stars made me sigh but the "it's tedious . . . disappointed in this one" made me wonder what the reviewer had read. Again, perspective. I'm glad you share yours with us!
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