Once Upon a Time (Penny Rader)

Once upon a time there was a young mother. She was a stay-at-home mommy with three little girls. She also had three stepsons, who seemed to be determined to test her in just about every way possible.

Young Mother lived for nap time and bed time, for then she could have a few moments peace, she could lose herself in those most magical of all items…romance novels. Romance novels saved Young Mother’s sanity. While reading romance novels, Young Mother didn’t have to worry that she was failing as a mommy and step-mommy, she didn’t have to wonder how bills were going to be paid or if there would be enough food on the table or if they’d be able to keep a roof over their heads.

Now, Young Mother also loved to go to the most magical of places, The Library. She loved to learn new things and this place was filled to the brim with knowledge. There were lots and lots of books about parenting and cooking and managing a home. She needed a bit of help in those departments. When she wasn’t being challenged by potty-training and tantrums and B&E, she was trying to figure out tasty, inexpensive ways to fill the tummies of all her boys and girls. Alas, she failed pretty miserably in the home managing department, a condition which persists to this day.

One day, while watching TV, Young Mother saw an interview with a romance writer. It seemed romance writers were real people. Hmm. A few weeks later, while watching the noon news, there were two romance writers being interviewed…and they lived just outside her city…and they were going to be at her local bookstore for a booksigning. That booksigning was going to be held on her birthday. It was sign. She had to go.

Young Mother met the Real, Local Romance Authors. She worked up some courage and asked them all sorts of pesky questions and they graciously answered. The visit stayed with Young Mother. Maybe, she thought, maybe she could write a romance novel. Now Young Mother had never written anything beyond some letters and homework assignments. She couldn’t even keep a decent diary. But the thought stayed with her.

A short while later, while visiting The Library, she discovered there were books about how to write. Fancy that! One book in particular caught her eye: Writing Romance Fiction for Love and Money by Helene Schellenberg Barnhardt. Young Mother checked this book out. With the help of her little sister, she kept that book out of the library for nearly five months. She took notes upon notes, studied the examples, and thought maybe, just maybe, she could do this. In the very back of the book, the author listed some resources for writers, including something called Romance Writers of America. Young Mother wrote a letter to RWA and asked for more information.

While waiting to hear back, Young Mother wondered what she should write about. At that time she read mostly historical romances, so it made sense she should try to write a historical. More trips to The Library to look over some history books, to try to pinpoint when the story would take place. She eventually settled on one of her favorite time periods, Colonial America. But…she wasn’t sure how to go about researching and learning what she needed to know. She wanted to learn more personal type of information that would affect her characters, not just wars and stuff.

The mail arrived, with a copy of a magazine produced by Romance Writers of America. And in that issue was an article by Roberta Gellis about how to research a historical romance novel. It was a sign.

Young Mother pored over the magazine, studying all the articles, learning what she could learn. She wrote and asked about a subscription to the magazine. She found, to her dismay, that there wasn’t a subscription available. It came as part of joining RWA. Young Mother’s heart sank. The dues to join were $35! That would buy a lot of groceries. RWA would have to wait.

A few months passed. Young Mother continued to study, to learn about the Colonial America time period. One day, the opening scene of a TV show made her go “Hmm.” Made her wonder. Soon she had created a heroine for her own story.

RWA still beckoned. Young Mother didn’t know any other writers. She continued to study that issue of the magazine. She noticed an article about something called The National Conference. Hmm. One day her husband surprised her with the money to join the organization. Every two months a new issue would arrive. She found out the main organization had Chapters, which were local groups for authors to join. But…her city didn’t have one. Young Mother wrote to one of the regional directors and asked how to start one.

Young Mother kept re-reading that article about The National Conference. She knew in her heart she would never be able to go, but still she dreamed. She figured up how much it would cost to attend the conference in Dallas, including air fare and hotel. $550.00. Oh my. She set that dream aside. It was time to do taxes anyway. While filling out the tax form, Young Mother noticed something new. It was called Earned Income Tax Credit. Huh? They might be able to receive even more money with their refund? She filled out the worksheets. The EITC for their family would be $550.00. It was a sign. Young Mother was supposed to go to The National Conference. And she did (while very pregnant with baby number four). And she met lots of wonderful people, including some who helped her start a local Chapter for her own area.

And that is the story about how I became a writer. What’s your story?

Know Thine Own Self

I have found that blogging is like public speaking…you know what you want to say until you actually do it. There are so many good posts on our assigned subject of POV that I am choosing another subject.

Being President of WARA has given me the urge to talk to strangers about writing. I hand out business cards everywhere, telling people, “If you or anyone you know wants to write, check out this group.” I am amazed at how many people have thought of writing a book! Several of the people that I talk to indicate that they would like to write a book. Some have said that they would like to attend a WARA meeting. Most find it difficult to make themselves walk through the door the first time, but everyone that does loves our group. Which brings me to the topic of this blog…

Where’s the motivation? Joining a group like WARA does help provide motivation... initially, just because we’ve taken the step to join a writing group, and later, because so much great information is provided to help us with our writing. A publishing deadline is probably the greatest motivator. I used to write for a newspaper and was on deadline all the time. I wrote because I had to…if I wanted to get paid and keep my job. Those in our group that are under contract know that they will finish a book by a certain date…because they have to. It is one of the greatest motivators.

We try to emulate this in our group by creating self-imposed deadlines and sacrificing a dollar to motivate ourselves. It’s a good ploy, but not nearly as powerful as a deadline imposed by an outside entity like a publisher or employer. It is imperative that we learn to motivate ourselves to write…since we are big girls and no one else is going to do it until we are under contract.

It is easy to get derailed in the beginning of ‘authorhood.’ We can get derailed by the technicalities of writing, GMC, POV, etc. These things are overwhelming to someone who hasn’t encountered them before. We can get derailed by comments that someone makes about our writing, contest results, or reading about how to write. To be self motivated, we have to find a way to keep writing in spite of all the things that would derail us.

Thus, an author needs some level of self-awareness. We have to know enough about ourselves to know what makes us write and what makes us not write. Then we have to have the courage to pursue the former and avoid the latter. What motivates me will not motivate another, and what motivates you may not motivate me. Finding what makes us write is so individualized that no one else can do it for us. People may suggest something that helps, but only we can determine what genuinely works for us.

In addition, we deceive ourselves. We create the perfect writing environment, get all the latest tools, gadgets, and software. We attend writing groups, blog, read about writing and do everything to attain the goal of authorship except write. In general, we buzz around the fringes of writing. More self awareness needed. The bottom line every day should be, “How much did I write today?” Adding words on a regular basis is the only way the story will ever get written.

So, know thine own self, author. We need to take a fresh look at ourselves and be brutally honest about what actually gets us to increase the word count of our story regularly. Then we must have the courage to eliminate the things that derail us, and embrace the things that actually make us write.

May your story grow daily,
Elaine